…If you want to be successful at achieving your wellness goals
Says who? Says me!
The me who lost 80 pounds 7 years ago and has kept it off.
The me who went from a job that left me empty to a career that gives me goosebumps.
The me who was emotionally stuck and finally figured out who I was and what I wanted.
And this is the me who wants to share with you what I have learned.
It’s September and I know from experience that September can be like Monday mornings. You
know what I mean. We tend to choose certain days or times of the year to start that diet or
exercise program. To look for a new job. To eliminate things from our lives that don’t serve us in
order to find happiness.
Whatever it is that you are aspiring to be/do/have, these 10 tips are important for your long lasting
Before you embark on this new way of living you need to make peace with yourself. It is important
for you to really accept where you are at today…..right now. Accept it and make peace with it.
Forgive yourself if you need to. DO NOT enter such an important stage of your life from a place of
desperation, anger, or self hatred! How do you allow those emotions to release? Go to a peaceful
place within yourself. You can do this by meditating, going for a walk somewhere peaceful, or just
getting quiet in a quiet setting. This will become your go-to when life throws a curve ball.
Find your purpose and live on purpose. There is a lot of chatter these days about finding your
purpose and that your job here on earth is to discover your purpose. Here is my perspective on
finding purpose. Go to the happy. Roll around in it. Smell it, taste it, listen to it…..look for clues
and then tune in to your instincts. Your senses will reveal the answer. Your purpose may not be
grand. You may not stop wars or end world hunger. Your purpose may be to create art, or teach,
or be the best pie maker that exists. The world needs the diversity and the unique-ness of
everyone. Don’t overthink…..keep it simple and the purpose will reveal itself. If you are happy
then it is quite likely that you are already living your purpose. Don’t apologize if you think it
doesn’t meet your pre-conceived notion of how grand your purpose should be.
Making changes in your life would benefit by re-thinking some of your perspectives. Let’s use
weight loss as an example. First of all forget about numbers. What do I mean by that? If you want
to lose weight, don’t look at the numbers on the scale and don’t look at some chart that tells you
what your numbers should be. Look at the changes you can implement that will lead to the
person you want to be. (ultimately this could also change your numbers as well) For example,
what if you changed something or someway that you ate. Do you find yourself eating as you
make your meal? Are you eating mindlessly? Could you get up 15 minutes earlier and do
something that enhances your life? Exercise? Yoga? Meditation? Making a healthy lunch to take
to work? And what if this new perspective found you actually enjoying that extra 15 minutes of
alive time?! (Notice I didn’t say that you would be losing 15 minutes of sleep?!) Dump the old
perspectives that have been drilled into your head about what it takes to achieve your objectives.
Put a brand new spin on your thinking.
Athletes practice at their sport. Artists practice creating. Writers practice writing. They do this by
incorporating this practice into their daily living. You need to do the same. If you are embarking on
something new for yourself than you need to plan on doing the little things everyday that will
make the difference you want to see. Have you dreamed of being a self-employed entrepreneur?
Then you need to figure out the steps it will take to get you what you want. Set a work schedule.
Monday to Friday? Nine to five? You decide and stick to it! Get dressed! In clothing that reflects
what your business is. Make a to-do list for the day, the week and the month. These are just
suggestions. Create a practice for yourself that will bring your dreams to reality.
Don’t give up. Did you make a mistake? Fix it and move on. Did you stray from your intention?
Get back on track. Did you experience disappointment? Shoulders back, head up, try again! Did
someone hurt your feelings….friends and family don’t support you? Dry your tears and stay the
course! Some days you will crawl and some days you will fly. Be persistent if it’s what you believe
We live in a world of “I want that and I want it now!” Instant pictures, instant food, instant results,
instant gratification. But there is an old saying that goes “slow and steady wins the race”.
Remember the tortoise and the hare? I love instant pleasure just as much as the next person, but
lasting change usually involves a lot of patience. Patience with the process and patience with
yourself. Patience is lined with faith…..faith that you are on your right path.
Check in with yourself now and again and just reflect on your progress. Who were you then and
who are you now? What have you accomplished? How has this changed your life? Recognizing
the progress you have made will fuel you to keep going. At times you may need to focus on how
far you have come instead of how much further you need to go. Remember the tortoise. Keep the
finish line in site.
This is super important! Get your pom-poms! I don’t care where you are at in your journey. You
need to start lovin’ on yourself. Taking your first step? Sometimes the hardest part of going for
what you want is to take that first step. Celebrate for crushing your fear. Each time you
accomplish something, big or small, acknowledge what you have done. Otherwise, what is the
friggin’ point? This dream of yours is a big deal! It’s worthy! Your worthy and your capable and
your amazing! Whoop, Whoop!
So you’ve decided that it’s time to forge a new trail for yourself. You hate the way you look. No
energy. Unfulfilled at work. You want more and you are stuck in a darkness that you want to
escape and run from. DON’T BRING THAT ATTITUDE TO THE PARTY! What party you say?
The party that your life is about to become. First off, only choose life changes that you feel
passionate about. Shifts that will truly feed your spirit. Once your clear on your passion then you
need to bring some passion. It should be easy. If you can’t find passion then you are going after
the wrong thing for yourself. Think about it. Isn’t that the goal for all of our lives? To live our
passion with passion! 10.
“Life is a journey not a destination”. This quote comes from Ralph Waldo Emerson. I heard this
quote many times over the years but it wasn’t until just recently that I really got what he was
saying. The destination would be your goal, your dream, your target, whatever you want to call it.
I like to call it my intention. And what I realized is that because I practice what I preach in these
10 steps, my journey is peaceful and passionate and fun and fulfilling. The journey is where the
learning and the growing and the meat of living a full life is. This is the process. Your destination
will come and go and a new one will take it’s place. So think about how you want your journey to
be. If you can turn your journey into a joyful experience than your destination might just end up
bigger and grander than what you envisioned.
Did you notice a Pattern with my blog today? All “P” words. I did that just to keep it fun for myself
and hopefully for you as well. And to add to the fun I want to add two bonus “P” words that are
important to having a healthy life.
It’s important to pay attention to the messages that your body is giving to you. Your pee is one of
the simplest things to look at. Urine removes waste. You’ve been preached to a lot about
ensuring that you drink plenty of water. Your pee should be pretty clear by midday if you are drinking enough. If your pee is still dark yellow by end of day then that is a clue that you need to
get to the tap!
Your poo should be s-shaped as opposed to gumball-size pellets. (thanks Dr. Oz) And of course
there should be no blood in your stool. If your poo suddenly changes then this is a signal that
somethin’s up. Your intestines are no doubt not working the way they should be. Get yourself
checked out. Your pee and poo are a good indicator of the status of your health. Don’t be shy
about looking and telling your doctor when something changes.
That’s it people.
It’s a pleasure passing on my pearls of wisdom! Teehee!