There’s this recurring dream I have that revolves around trying
desperately to do something, but not being able to. For example,
trying to dial a telephone in my dream and just can’t get the numbers
right. Then there’s the scream that stays mute in my throat like my
mouth is sewn shut. In both cases, I am putting every ounce of
energy into these simple tasks with no success. My husband has
actually nudged me awake, concerned because I am moaning in my
I had these dreams for years and still do the odd time.
But I feel like I have finally figured out the message behind the
cinema of my mind.
They manifest when I am struggling with something that I want in my
life, but I’m frustrated with not being able to accomplish it.
That right there is fear holding me hostage even in my sleep.
And in my awake moments, I anticipate the worst.
So what’s the answer?
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
According to Susan Jeffers, PhD, “saying yes means letting go of
“Saying no means to be a victim. Saying no means to block, to fight,
to resist. This creates tension exhaustion, wasted expenditure of
energy, and emotional upheaval.”
Even if you fail, the act of taking action will dissolve your fears over
And you will begin to create the meaningful life that you’ve always